NegaTive Movies and Television Programs

                                            * NegaTive Movies and Television Programs

Today's kids are learning their attitudes and values more from television and movies than from anywhere else. It is estimated that in the United States, by the time a youngster gets out of high school, he has watched more than 20,000 hours of television, witnessed 15,000 murders, and watched 100,000 alcohol-related commercials.*

They convey the message that drinking is fun, smoking is glamorous, and drugs are the "in" thing. No wonder the crime rate is so high!

Soap operas glamorise premarital and extramarital sex. No wonder commitments  are lacking in relationships and divorce rates are high. Impressionable viewers set their standards and benchmarks based on what they see and hear in the media. And no matter who it is, we are all impressionable to varying degrees.

 * Profanity * 

Using profanities show a lack of self-control and discipline.

  * Rock Music * 

The lyrics of some hit songs are obscene. We can be subconsciously influenced by the music we hear and the performance we watch.

Learn to Like the Things That Need to be Done...
 
Some things need to be done whether we like them or not; for example, mothers caring for their young. They may not be fun and games, and may even be painful. But if we learn to like the task, the impossible becomes possible.

Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
                                                                                            :-St. Francis of Assisi




 * Start Your Day with a Positive * 


Read or listen to something positive first thing in the morning. After a good night's sleep we are relaxed and our subconscious is receptive. It sets the tone for the day, and puts us in the right frame of mind to make every day a positive day. In order to bring about change, we
need to make a conscious effort Andre committed to make positive thoughts and behavior part of our lives. Practice having positive thoughts and behavior daily until they become a habit.

William James of Harvard University said, "If you are going to change your life, you need to start immediately and do it flamboyantly."

 * As mentioned in Jerry Johnson's book It's Killing Our Kids, p. xvi.

 # WinNeRS VeRsUS LoSeRS # 

 ♦ The Winner is always part of the answer;

   The Loser is always part of the problem. 

♦ The Winner always has a program;

   The Loser always has an excuse.

♦ The Winner says, "Let me do it for you";

    The Loser says, "That is not my job."

♦ The Winner sees an answer for every problem;

    The Loser sees a problem for every answer.

 ♦ The Winner says, "It may be difficult but it is possible";

    The Loser says, "It may be possible but it is too difficult."

♦ When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, "I was wrong";

    When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, "It wasn't my fault."

♦A Winner makes commitments;

 A Loser makes promises.

♦Winners have dreams;

  Losers have schemes.

♦Winners say, "I must do something";

 Losers say, "Something must be done."

♦Winners are a part of the team;

 Losers are apart from the team.

♦Winners see the gain;

 Losers see the pain.

♦Winners see possibilities;

 Losers see problems.

♦Winners believe in win-win;

 Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.

♦Winners see the potential;

 Losers see the past.

♦Winners are like a thermostat;

 Losers are like thermometers.

♦Winners choose what they say;

 Losers say what they choose.

♦Winners use hard arguments but soft words;

 Losers use soft arguments but hard words.

♦Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;

 Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.

♦Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: "Don't do to others what you would not

want them to do to you";

♦Losers follow the philosophy, "Do it to others before they do it to you."

♦Winners make it happen;

 Losers let it happen.

♦Winners plan and prepare to win.

The key word is preparation

BE A WINNER--ACTION STEPS....

Let me close this chapter with the eight action steps discussed earlier :-

1. Be a good finder.

2. Make a habit of doing it now.

3. Develop an attitude of gratitude.

4. Get into a continuous education program.

5. Build positive self-esteem.

6. Stay away from negative influences.

7. Learn to like the things that need to be done.

8. Start your day with a positive.

ACTION PLAN :---

1. Write these action steps down on a 3-by-5 index card and read them every day for the next 21 days.
     For the next 30 minutes, answer the following questions.

2. How can you use each step

3.at home

4. at work?

5.socially?

6. Make a list of the things you would like to change about yourself.

7. Then list the benefits to you (and others) of each change.

8. Finally establish a timetable and commit yourself to make the changes.