MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO BE POSITIVE

                                     * MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO BE POSITIVE * 

 

             " All human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes."

                                                                               :- ANDREW CARNEGIE



Learn to find pleasure in simple things. Make the best of your circumstances. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with the gladness in their life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. Don't try to avoid all risks. Don't think that somehow you should be protected form misfortunes that befall. Others, That's not liable to happen, and you'll be disappointed when you find out that it doesn't . The future is always uncertain.  

You can't please everybody. Don't let criticism overly influence you. Don't let your neighbors or  " conventional wisdom " Make decisions for you. Be yourself. It will work out better in the long run. Do the things that you enjoy doing. Don't borrow trouble. Imaginary things are often harder to bear than reality.

" Hate poisons the soul,"  Said Robert Louis Stevenson, So don't envy what other people have. Don't hold grudges. Avoid people who make you unhappy. Have many interests. If you can't travel, read about new places, Don't regret where you haven't been, or what you haven't done. Don't hold post mortems. Don't spend your life brooding over sorrows and mistakes.

Don't be the one who never gets over things. Stop and think about the people in your life who live in the past or are holding grudges. Consider you want to be like them. Do what you can do for those less fortunate than yourself. And above all, keep busy at something, or several things. A busy person doesn't have time to be unhappy. 

When you get to a point where your present situation is leading to a lot of self-doubt, remember, life is a journey not a destination. We are always in the process of arriving at conclusions. That's because we are always struggling with change or fear or failure or even success. Yes, success can create problems too, and will discuss some. Adjustments are always needed.         

First-time experience are often risky. You must adjust to new circumstance. You may have to adapt to different people. You have to decide how much emotion you should show, particularly at work. You can worry about whether you are in a rut, and if so, how to get out of  it. To cope with new experience, a positive self-image and a positive attitude are invaluable.

There is powerful evidence of how self-image influences results. The way you see yourself affand infects your attitude,  which is turn affects your actions, which determine your accomplishments. The key, then, for gaining confidence, earning   respect, and effecting positive change with better results, line in developing and maintaining a good self-image. The sad news is that most of us often fall short because we don't do the daily self-image maintenance necessary. The underlying problem is that we are drifting and reacting rather than initiating action.  Think of it as planting a crop. If we want a better crop of self-worth, confidence, opportunities, we must change and gain control of what can be done, not worry about what cannot be done. If you're a farmer, you can't worry about the weather constantly.

We deserve more than to waste time and energy blaming other for bad breaks, indulging in self-pity, seeking revenge, or focusing on past mistakes. We're got understand our doubts and fears. But change doesn't simply come form analysis. It only comes from action. It's never easy and requires determination and discipline.  

           * CHANGE THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF *

  " The only disability in life is a bad attitude." 

                                                              :- SCOTT HAMILTON

You can change the way you feel about yourself. These suggestions will help :-

1.  Cast away your negative past. List your personal liabilities, past mistakes, failures, and embarrassments. Burn it. Watch it turned to ashes and say aloud, " That's the last time I will let you get me down. I have more important things to do." Your actions always reinforce your dominant thoughts. Learn from those past bloopers and get rid of them. Get them off your back. There are enough monkeys in this world waiting to jump on it for you.

2. Evaluate your attributes. List your personal assets, competencies, and achievements. A realistic resume is a good start. Ask your friends for help. Read it aloud three times a day for three weeks, and then read it as soon as you get up each day thereafter. Your actions reinforce your dominant thoughts. If you have ever felt valuable, worthy, or good in the past, you can feel that way again. You spent many years allowing others to program you. Now it's up to you.

3. Seek out positive input. Read or listen to something motivational or inspirational everyday. You also need other people's experiences. Their research, techniques, and results can cut years off your learning curve and save you from painful trial and error.

4. Write down specific goals. This triggers your inborn, automatic goal-seeking mechanism. Even while you sleep, Your subconscious will help you overcome roadblocks, obstacles, and defeats. As you achieve your goals, the written proof sup-ports you as a worthy, achieving person, and plants good self-image seeds.

5. Take responsibility for your emotional environment. It's hard to soar like an eagle when you are surrounded by a bunch of turkeys. The law of emotional gravity is strong. You become like those with whom you associate.